My Mother Raised Four Sons Alone...

Chris Childress

Childress Family | Orange County CA

I grew up in a single-parent household where my mother raised four sons alone. My father’s addiction kept him from being present, and though he longed for a relationship with us, his choices created a divide. On his deathbed, he desperately wanted to speak to us, but tubes down his throat made it impossible. That moment left an indelible mark on me—I realized then that sacrifices are necessary to give my children the time and presence I never had. I vowed to be a present father because I saw firsthand how the absence of those conversations and teachings shaped my journey into adulthood.

As a father, I’ve faced many struggles and obstacles. One of the biggest challenges has been modeling what love and a healthy family dynamic should look like in our home. Neither my wife nor I had a consistent example of that growing up. We had to learn how to build a strong marriage, how to communicate effectively, and how to put in the effort to make it work. Another major obstacle has been choosing time over money. There were financial opportunities I could have pursued, but they would have taken me away from my family for long periods. Instead, we made the decision to create a business that allows us to move as a unit. Everything we do, we do together. That decision has been the most rewarding of my life, allowing me to be fully engaged, supportive, and present as a father.

Through my experience with Dad Academy, I’ve learned the importance of consistency—being the same leader, mentor, and teacher at home that I am at work. I used to see those as separate roles, but now I understand they are one and the same. Dad Academy encouraged me to be intentional in balancing these roles to meet the unique needs of my children. One of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned is that each of my children requires a different version of Dad to thrive. Their learning styles, personalities, and emotional needs vary, and I have to adapt my approach to truly connect with each of them.

This awareness has shaped my parenting style, making me more patient, present, and proactive in providing the guidance and support my kids need. I now approach fatherhood with greater intention, knowing that my presence, adaptability, and love will help them grow into the best versions of themselves.